Social Anxiety therapy help

Helping Social Anxiety/Phobia with Psychotherapy at 1066 Therapy

covering East Sussex, Battle, Hastings, Bexhill, Rye, Heathfield, Hailsham, Eastbourne, Crowborough, Brighton, Tunbridge Wells, Tonbridge, Ashford and Kent.

Psychotherapy Hypnosis & hypnotherapy for social anxiety, phobia, shyness, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, stammering, blushing, performance anxiety, fear of being judged, shy bladder at Battle, Hastings, Rye, Bexhill, Eastbourne, Heathfield, East Sussex, Kent, UK
All symptoms of social anxiety/social phobia can be effectively helped using psychotherapy approaches. In most cases, the symptoms can be completely resolved by using therapy appropriate to the individual. I have successfully helped a wide variety of clients with all sorts of social anxiety problems at my practice just outside of Battle, East Sussex.

Social phobia (sociophobia) or social anxiety is the second most common phobia that we can develop. Adults with this problem often, but not always, say to me that they were a shy child. Social anxiety is basically a fear of being judged, rejected, criticised, laughed at, or humiliated by others. When we have social anxiety we often worry about what others are thinking about us – have I said the wrong thing, do they really like me etc. On the face of it, this may not seem like something to get anxious or fearful about, after all who really cares what others think, right? Wrong! People with social anxiety care a lot: it is a very common symptom and can have a really negative effect on our life.

A wide range of people of varying ages, gender, race and background have this anxiety or phobia: the official statistics show that about 13% of the population have this particular type of anxiety or phobia to some degree. This 13% figure comprises those who have actually been medically diagnosed with social anxiety or sociophobia. However, judging by the clients I see every day, I believe that this % figure is much higher in reality, as many people are never medically ‘diagnosed’. In fact, just about everyone who consults me for help, whatever their main problem is, turns out to have some degree of social anxiety too.

Many of us make the mistake of thinking that ‘social anxiety’ means that we only feel anxious in ‘social’ situations (e.g. in a pub, at a party etc). However, social anxiety actually means that we can feel anxious in any (although not necessarily all) situation which involves interacting with other people.

Social anxiety is characterised by one or more of the following:

  • a fear of being judged, criticised or rejected
  • a fear of being laughed at or otherwise ‘undermined’
  • worrying about what other people might think about us
  • a feeling of being ‘not good enough’ or ‘less than’
  • ‘shyness’ – often experienced during childhood
  • performance anxiety (driving test, exams, sex etc)
  • shy bladder or paruresis: usually men – can’t pee in public loos or when ‘on the spot’
  • fear of making mistakes / failure
  • paying excessive attention to our personal appearance – face, hair, clothes, shoes
  • a general worry of social situations
  • stammering/stuttering
  • perfectionism – being a perfectionist
  • being a ‘people-pleaser’ (to avoid conflict and/or rejection)
  • a dislike of using the telephone
  • a preoccupation with our looks – teeth, hair, make-up, maybe having repeated cosmetic surgery
  • a dislike of being ‘put on the spot’,
  • a dislike of authority
  • a dislike of being watched when writing or eating
  • a dislike/fear of public speaking

Social anxiety is commonly linked with the following problems:

There is an old Spanish proverb which says “a life lived in fear is a life only half lived” and I think this applies to anyone with social anxiety. When we have social anxiety we can feel that, at best we are prevented from achieving our full potential in life and, at worst we are almost unable to lead a ‘normal’ life. It is quite common for us to try to limit our life and lifestyle to try to manage, control, or even avoid, situations where we might experience our symptoms.

What Causes Social Anxiety

One thing to know is that we are generally not born ‘shy’, or with a fear of being judged, or any of the other symptoms of social anxiety. We often think, “it’s just the way I am ” or “there must be something wrong with me” or “I’m an anxious person” but none of that is true. We generally develop these problems during our developmental years: something went wrong somewhere, perhaps some distressing events or occasionally a trauma. The events are often long forgotten by the time we are aware of having any sort of anxiety. Nevertheless, these events caused strong feelings which have not been processed properly, and so are causing some inner emotional conflict. In addition, sometimes the meanings we took from some of our early experiences resulted in negative ‘core’ beliefs about ourselves. Either or both of these factors are the most common causes of social anxiety. So, in order to resolve social anxiety, any emotional conflict needs to be resolved and any negative core beliefs need to be changed.

Psychotherapy Hypnosis & hypnotherapy for social anxiety, phobia, shyness, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, stammering, blushing, performance anxiety, fear of being judged, shy bladder at Battle, Hastings, Rye, Bexhill, Eastbourne, Heathfield, East Sussex, Kent, UK


I offer different approaches for this problem and the choice of which one (or more) to take
depends on the individual, their circumstances, and their history – the decision is usually made during the initial consultation.

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