Helping Sexual Problems with Psychotherapy at 1066 Therapy
covering East Sussex, Battle, Hastings, Bexhill, Rye, Heathfield, Hailsham, Eastbourne, Crowborough, Brighton, Tunbridge Wells, Tonbridge, Ashford and Kent.
Therapy can help all kinds of sexual problems and dysfunctions. These include premature ejaculation, vaginismus, impotence/erection problems, sexual phobia, fear of intimacy and similar. I have significantly helped people with these problems using either psychotherapy, a form of hypnotherapy, or cognitive therapy.
Sexual problems can be one of the most difficult things to seek help for and to talk about. Because of this, many people ‘suffer in silence’ over a long period of time. They can feel quite isolated with their problem. Despite our so-called liberated society there is a still a bit of a ‘taboo’ atmosphere surrounding sexual problems. They can be the subject of many a joke! However, these problems do exist and there’s nothing funny about them. And they are, in fact, surprisingly common in men and women of all ages.
Common sexual problems
The following problems can all be successfully helped using the therapeutic approach which suits the individual:
This is an extremely common problem affecting many men. It involves regular and persistent occurrences of ejaculating/coming too quickly, usually with very little sexual stimulation to bring it on. It can occur during or before actual intercourse.
Commonly known as impotence or erectile dysfunction. A problem “getting it up” – difficulty getting or maintaining an erection. This is also a common problem.
Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder
This is when a man or woman has a low libido or low sex drive. This can result in them avoiding (or trying to avoid) anything and everything to do with sex or intimacy. These symptoms can also be associated with a fear of sex.
This is the involuntary contraction of the muscles surrounding the vagina. This makes penetration and actual sexual intercourse very painful or impossible for some women.
This is a common problem and it means that a woman is unable to achieve orgasm/can’t come even if the rest of sex is enjoyable. Quite often this means that the woman has never achieved an orgasm during foreplay or sexual intercourse. It is quite common for women to suffer from both vaginismus and anorgasmia together.
Causes of psycho-sexual problems
Before attending any therapy for this type of problem, it is best to have a medical check to ensure there is no physical/organic reason for the problem. If the medical check is clear, the cause is most likely psychological or emotional in nature. This makes it a psycho-sexual problem because of the absence of any organic/physiological reason for it.
Most, if not all, people who have a sexual problem or dysfunction, also have other problems. Problems such as low confidence or low self-esteem. They may also fear judgement / criticism by others, worrying about what others think of them – these issues are signs of social anxiety. Or perhaps they feel down which only makes matters worse. And stress makes things worse too. In some cases there will be a problem in the relationship which will be causing or contributing to the problem. Finally, there are those who have experienced some form of trauma which is causing their problem. The trauma is unresolved, hence the on-going problems.
Most non-physical causes of sexual problems are usually deep-seated and long-standing . Therefore ‘ordinary’ hypnotherapy (usually referred to as Suggestion Therapy or Clinical Hypnosis) will not be effective. Except perhaps for a very short period of time. We will need to work on and resolve the underlying and/or connected issues to improve the sexual problem.
I offer different approaches for this (and every problem). The choice of which one (or more) to take depends on the individual and their circumstances. We usually make the decision together during the initial consultation.
Please browse my site for information on the various therapies / approaches that I practise.
I am consulted for all types of sexual problem and they are surprisingly common. You can rest assured that it’s not ‘just you’! We will discuss your problems in the strictest of confidence, and in a caring and professional manner.
Call me now on 07722783490 or 01424 772392 to book your free 30 minute initial consultation.