Helping Male Sexual Problems: Premature Ejaculation, Low Sex Drive, Erection Problems, at 1066 Therapy
covering East Sussex, Battle, Hastings, Bexhill, Rye, Heathfield, Hailsham, Eastbourne, Crowborough, Brighton, Tunbridge Wells, Tonbridge, Ashford and Kent.
I am frequently consulted by men with all kinds of male sexual problems and dysfunctions and I have helped them successfully using psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and cognitive therapy. Problems have included premature ejaculation (PE), improving erection problems, low sex drive, and similar.
I have helped men of all ages with these problems at my therapy practice just outside of Battle, East Sussex.
Male sexual problems can be one of the most difficult things to seek help for and to talk about and, because of this, many men ‘suffer in silence’ over a long period of time and can feel quite isolated with their problem.
Despite our so-called liberated society there is a still a bit of a ‘taboo’ atmosphere surrounding problems of a sexual nature and/or they can be the subject of many a joke! However, these problems nevertheless exist; there’s nothing funny about it when someone has such a problem, and they are, in fact, surprisingly common in men of all ages.
Before attending any therapy for male sexual problems, it is best to have a medical check to ensure there is no physical/organic reason for the problem. Assuming the medical check reveals no problems, it makes sense that the cause of the sexual problem is most likely to be psychological or emotional in nature, making it a psycho-sexual problem (they are known as psycho-sexual problems in the absence of any organic/physiological reason for them).
Most, if not all, men who have a sexual problem or dysfunction also have other issues such as low confidence or low self-esteem; or perhaps some performance anxiety, or a shy bladder for example – all of these issues are signs of social anxiety. Or perhaps they feel down because of it, or may use drink or drugs as a way of compensating, which only makes everything seem worse. In some cases there will be a problem in the relationship which will be causing or contributing to the problem.
Further information on the most common male sexual problems which I am consulted for is listed below:
Premature Ejaculation (PE) ~ Otherwise referred to as coming too quickly. Research suggests that about 50% of men regularly experience PE and that most men have experienced some degree of it at some point in their lives. There is a wide range of criteria used for defining just exactly what premature ejaculation means – from coming before your partner does, to using measurements of the time taken from the start of sex. Premature ejaculation can sometimes occur before any real physical stimulation has taken place (sometimes it can happen without any physical stimulation at all) which can be especially embarrassing and distressing, and the anxiety created by coming too quickly only makes matters worse.
Erection Problems ~ This is also called impotence and is when a man cannot achieve or maintain an erection for long enough to have sexual intercourse. This is a common problem for men of all ages and one that can have a variety of physiological and/or psychological causes. A doctor can tell you (and medically check you for) all the likely physiological causes, but the psychological causes include anxiety, unresolved emotional conflicts, stress and depression. Studies also point to drink and / or relationship problems playing a part in this problem.
Low Sex Drive/Low Libido ~ This is also known as Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder and is surprisingly common. A person’s libido or sex drive is what determines basically how often they want sex. The disorder can be characterised as either ‘general’ where there is a general lack of sexual desire, or it can be ‘situational’ where sexual desire exists but not necessarily for the man’s current partner. The problem may also be classed as either ‘life-long’, where sexual desire has always been low, or it can be ‘acquired’ where there has previously been a “normal” sex drive but now there is a problem. A low libido can be an indication of many factors, such as stress, boredom in a relationship, or a dis-interest in a current partner, or depression, or a reaction to some medications, or a slow recovery following an illness and so on.
There are other male sexual problems including:
- Sexual Aversion Disorder, otherwise known as a fear or strong dislike of sex and is where a man tries to avoid having sex or all forms of intimacy in case it might lead to sex;
- Retarded Ejaculation, where a man takes much longer than he’d like before coming, or finds it otherwise difficult to achieve orgasm;
- Retrograde Ejaculation is when the semen and sperm is forced back into the bladder at orgasm – this problem is usually caused by physical conditions or medications;
- Male Hyperactive Sexual Desire Disorder, which is the opposite to having a low sex drive and is when a man almost constantly desires sex and he feels driven to pursue sex (for sex’s sake) which can have a negative effect on his work, health and relationships.
As most non-physical causes of male sexual problems are usually deep-seated and long-standing, Suggestion Therapy (otherwise known as Clinical Hypnosis) will usually not be very effective over the long term. Whatever the problem is, it is almost always the case that other (underlying and/or connected) issues will need to be worked on and resolved in order to improve the sexual problem.
I offer different approaches for this (and every problem) and the choice of which one (or more) to take depends on the individual and their circumstances – the decision is usually made during the initial consultation.
Please browse my site for information on the various therapies / approaches that I practise.
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