Helping Male Sexual Problems: Premature Ejaculation, Low Sex Drive, Erection Problems, at 1066 Therapy
covering East Sussex, Battle, Hastings, Bexhill, Rye, Heathfield, Hailsham, Eastbourne, Crowborough, Brighton, Tunbridge Wells, Tonbridge, Ashford and Kent.
I am frequently consulted by men with all kinds of male sexual problems and dysfunctions. I have helped them successfully using psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and cognitive therapy. Problems have included premature ejaculation (PE), improving erection problems, low sex drive, and similar.
I have helped men of all ages with these problems at my therapy practice just outside of Battle, East Sussex.
Male sexual problems can be one of the most difficult things to seek help for and to talk about. Because of this, many men ‘suffer in silence’ over a long period of time. They can feel quite isolated with their problem. Despite our so-called liberated society there is a still a bit of a ‘taboo’ atmosphere surrounding sexual problems. They can be the subject of many a joke! However, these problems do exist and there’s nothing funny about them. And they are, in fact, surprisingly common in men of all ages.
Common sexual problems
Information on the most common male sexual problems which I am consulted for is listed below.
Premature Ejaculation (PE) ~
Otherwise referred to as coming too quickly. Research suggests that about 50% of men regularly experience PE and that most men have experienced some degree of it at some point in their lives. There is a wide range of criteria used for defining just exactly what premature ejaculation means – from coming before your partner does, to using measurements of the time taken from the start of sex. Premature ejaculation can sometimes occur before any real physical stimulation has taken place (sometimes it can happen without any physical stimulation at all) which can be especially embarrassing and distressing, and the anxiety created by coming too quickly only makes matters worse.
Erection Problems ~
This is also called impotence and is when a man cannot achieve or maintain an erection for long enough to have sexual intercourse. This is a common problem for men of all ages and one that can have a variety of physiological and/or psychological causes. A doctor can tell you (and medically check you for) all the likely physiological causes, but the psychological causes include anxiety, unresolved emotional conflicts, stress and depression. Studies also point to drink and / or relationship problems playing a part in this problem.
Low Sex Drive/Low Libido ~
This is also known as Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder and is surprisingly common. A person’s libido or sex drive is what determines basically how often they want sex. Where there is a general lack of sexual desire, we call the disorder ‘general’. We call it ‘situational’ where sexual desire exists but not necessarily for the man’s current partner. The problem is further classified as ‘life-long’, where sexual desire has always been low. Or ‘acquired’ where there has previously been a “normal” sex drive but now there is a problem. A low libido can be an indication of many factors, such as stress, boredom in a relationship, dis-interest in the current partner, depression, a reaction to some medications, or a slow recovery following an illness, and so on.
There are other male sexual problems including:
- Sexual Aversion Disorder, otherwise known as a fear or strong dislike of sex. This is when a man tries to avoid having sex, or all forms of intimacy in case it might lead to sex;
- Retarded Ejaculation, where a man takes much longer than he’d like before coming, or finds it otherwise difficult to achieve orgasm;
- Retrograde Ejaculation is when something directs/forces the semen and sperm back into the bladder at orgasm. Physical conditions or medications usually cause this problem;
- Male Hyperactive Sexual Desire Disorder, which is the opposite to having a low sex drive and is when a man almost constantly desires sex. He feels driven to pursue sex (for sex’s sake) which can have a negative effect on his work, health and relationships.
Causes of psycho-sexual problems
Before attending any therapy for male sexual problems, it is best to have a medical check to ensure there is no physical/organic reason for the problem. If the medical check is clear, the cause is most likely psychological or emotional in nature. This means that it’s a psycho-sexual problem. We call them psycho-sexual problems in the absence of any organic/physiological causes.
Most, if not all, men who have a sexual problem or dysfunction, also have other problems. Problems such as low confidence or low self-esteem. They may also fear judgement / criticism by others, worrying about what others think of them – these issues are signs of social anxiety. They may have performance anxiety or shy bladder too. Or perhaps they feel down which only makes matters worse. In some cases there will be a problem in the relationship which will be causing or contributing to the problem. Finally, there are men who have experienced some form of trauma which is causing their problem. The trauma is unresolved, hence the on-going problems.
Most non-physical causes of sexual problems are usually deep-seated and long-standing . Therefore ‘ordinary’ hypnotherapy (usually referred to as Suggestion Therapy or Clinical Hypnosis) will not be effective. Except perhaps for a very short period of time. We will need to work on and resolve the underlying and/or connected issues to improve the sexual problem.
I offer different approaches for this (and every problem). The choice of which one (or more) to take depends on the individual and their circumstances. We usually make the decision together during the initial consultation.
Please browse my site for information on the various therapies / approaches that I practise.
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