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Overcoming
problems with Anger using
Releasing
pent-up anger, occasionally, in a constructive way, can
be liberating and cathartic but what about all the other times you
lose your temper...? Apart from not being very attractive ........( First of all it may help to understand that anger, unlike love and fear for example, is not a primary emotion. It is a reaction to pain, either physical pain or emotional pain or a bit of both, so it is regarded as a secondary or second-hand emotion. The underlying feelings (the primary emotions) include frustration, sadness, an inability to cope, insecurity, helplessness, fear, vulnerability and basically anything else that can cause you pain. When you are suffering with anger issues, you subconsciously convert the emotional pain you are feeling into anger because it is easier, more satisfying and, well, less painful to get angry than to acknowledge and deal with the underlying feelings - for example, if you are feeling vulnerable or insecure, you can create a false sense of being in control and having power by getting angry. That said, anger never makes those underlying feelings go away it merely distracts you from them for a short while. For the most part, if you suffer with a short fuse and anger issues you tend to feel that your anger is justified. Unfortunately, the rest of the world doesn't always agree with you and serious problems can develop with people getting booted out of jobs, or social situations, or even their family homes when repeated anger, outbursts of rage, or aggressive actions, or even just single incidents, are not seen as being justifiable by their work colleagues, or by society at large, or by their partner and family. Learning ways to cope with your anger, such as anger management or CBT, are increasingly popular and can help you to manage your short fuse and angry outbursts to varying degrees BUT this is only controlling your symptoms - you will still have the causes, the primary emotions, to deal with. In addition, although anger management and similar can help you to better control your anger, which you would usually direct outwards at other people and/or situations, sometimes this can cause you to turn the anger you are feeling inwards, to yourself, and this can contribute to or worsen depression. Having problems with anger rarely occurs in isolation. The chances are that, especially when you are feeling stressed, you will have other problems that you are not entirely happy about or comfortable with: maybe you drink a bit more than you'd like, or perhaps you comfort eat and put on weight, or maybe you worry too much about what others are thinking about you (social anxiety), or perhaps there is another problem. Suffice to say that life is just not how you'd like it to be for you. Ultimately then in order to resolve your anger issues (and any other problems you may have) you will have to deal with the underlying feelings causing your angry reactions - those feelings of frustration, sadness, an inability to cope, insecurity, helplessness, fear, vulnerability and basically anything else that can cause you pain.
'Pure' Hypnoanalysis can uncover the original root cause of your emotional conflict and free you from the need to get angry to cover up your true feelings so you can start to enjoy a happier, more relaxed life.
Call me now on 07722 783490 or 01424 772392 to book your free initial consultation.
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