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Overcoming
problems with Anger using
Releasing
pent-up anger, occasionally, in a constructive way, can
be liberating and cathartic but what about all the other times you
lose your temper...? Apart from not being very attractive ........( First of all it may help you to be aware that anger is not what is known as a primary emotion, unlike love and fear for example. Anger is actually a reaction to pain, either physical (witness the immediate reaction if you hit your thumb with a hammer, say!) or emotional or a bit of both, so it is regarded as a secondary or second-hand emotion. Now, the angry reaction to physical pain is really easy to notice but it's not nearly as easy to be aware of an angry reaction to emotional pain but anger is, in fact, a 'mask' for other emotions such as sadness, insecurity, helplessness, fear, vulnerability and basically anything that feels painful to you. However, you will not always be aware of the underlying feelings especially if you have bottled them up, which is most often the case. Everyone gets angry sometimes and, when it happens, we are subconsciously converting our underlying 'true' emotions into anger because it is easier, more satisfying and actually less painful to get angry than to acknowledge and deal with those underlying feelings. So, anger is a normal, natural reaction to pain, in whatever form it takes and most everyone will get angry on occasion. But what if you have a real problem with anger? You fly off the handle over anything and everything? What is that all about? Are you just a bad tempered, angry person by nature? Or is something else going on? If you have always had problems with anger or if you're finding yourself with a really short fuse recently which is not usual for you, the chances are that you are suffering from stress overload, (which is largely due to you carrying around a whole bunch of bottled up, unresolved emotions), and this is basically making you feel like it's almost impossible for you to cope with just about any of life's everyday stresses, strains and challenges without over-reacting and getting angry. Learning ways to cope with your anger, such as anger management or CBT, have become popular in recent years and they can help you to 'manage' your short fuse and angry outbursts to varying degrees BUT this is only controlling your symptoms - you will still have the causes, the underlying stress overload - those bottled up emotions, to deal with. Having problems with anger rarely occurs in isolation. The chances are that, especially when you are feeling extra stressed or pressured, you will have other problems that you are not entirely happy about or comfortable with: maybe you drink a bit more than you'd like, or perhaps you comfort eat and put on weight, or maybe you worry too much about what others are thinking about you (social anxiety), or perhaps there is another problem. Suffice to say that life is just not how you'd like it to be for you. Ultimately then, in order to resolve your anger issues (and any other associated problems you may have), you will have to deal with the underlying stress overload and bottled up feelings causing your problems - those feelings of frustration, sadness, an inability to cope, insecurity, helplessness, fear, vulnerability and so on.
'Pure' Hypnoanalysis uncovers the original root causes, your bottled up emotions, and frees you from the need to get angry to cover up your true feelings so you can enjoy a happier, more relaxed life. CHANGE YOUR LIFE Call me now on 07722 783490 or 01424 772392 to book your free initial consultation.
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