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Overcoming
problems with Anger using
Releasing
pent-up anger, occasionally, in a constructive way, can
be liberating and cathartic but what about all the other times you
lose your temper...? Apart from not being very attractive ........( First of all it may help to understand that anger, unlike love and fear for example, is not a primary emotion. It is a reaction to pain, either physical pain or emotional pain or a bit of both, so it is regarded as a secondary or second-hand emotion. Anger is a 'mask' for other emotions such as; sadness, an inability to cope, insecurity, helplessness, fear, vulnerability and basically anything that feels painful. However, you will not always be aware of the underlying feelings especially if they are bottled up and buried quite deep. When you are suffering with anger issues, you subconsciously convert the 'true' emotions you are feeling into anger because it is easier, more satisfying and, well, less painful to get angry than to acknowledge and deal with the underlying feelings - for example, if you are feeling vulnerable or insecure, you can create a false sense of being in control and having power by getting angry. That said, anger never makes those underlying feelings go away it merely masks them and distracts you from them for a short while. For the most part, if you suffer with a short fuse and anger issues you can often tend to feel that your anger is justified. Unfortunately, the rest of the world doesn't always agree with you and serious problems can sometimes develop with perhaps you losing your job, or your friends, or even your family when repeated anger, outbursts of rage, or aggressive actions are not seen as being justifiable by your work colleagues, or by your friends, or society at large, or by your partner and family. Learning ways to cope with your anger, such as anger management or CBT, have become popular recently and they can help you to 'manage' your short fuse and angry outbursts to varying degrees BUT this is only controlling your symptoms - you will still have the causes, those underlying bottled up emotions, to deal with. Having problems with anger rarely occurs in isolation. The chances are that, especially when you are feeling stressed or pressured, you will have other problems that you are not entirely happy about or comfortable with: maybe you drink a bit more than you'd like, or perhaps you comfort eat and put on weight, or maybe you worry too much about what others are thinking about you (social anxiety), or perhaps there is another problem. Suffice to say that life is just not how you'd like it to be for you. Ultimately then, in order to resolve your anger issues (and any other associated problems you may have), you will have to deal with the underlying bottled up feelings causing your problems - those feelings of frustration, sadness, an inability to cope, insecurity, helplessness, fear, vulnerability and so on. And remember, you might not even be aware of these underlying feelings if they are bottled up and buried quite deep.
'Pure' Hypnoanalysis uncovers the original root cause of your emotional conflict and frees you from the need to get angry to cover up your true feelings so you can enjoy a happier, more relaxed life. CHANGE YOUR LIFE Call me now on 07722 783490 or 01424 772392 to book your free initial consultation.
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