Helping Addiction and Addictive Behaviours, Gambling Problems at 1066 Therapy
covering East Sussex, Battle, Hastings, Bexhill, Rye, Heathfield, Hailsham, Eastbourne, Crowborough, Brighton, Tunbridge Wells, Tonbridge, Ashford, Maidstone and Kent.
I am often asked for help with addiction problems, or problems with addictive behaviours. These terms cover a wide range of issues, such as problems with ‘social’ drugs, gambling, compulsive shopping, sex, online pornography, eating, drinking, exercise, ‘workaholic’ etc.
I help people with these sorts of problems at my practice just outside of Battle, East Sussex.
Gambling problems are especially prevalent nowadays as it has been made so easy with casinos, horse-race betting, poker, football betting, bingo all now on-line and all just a few mouse-clicks away – people don’t even have to leave their house. Gambling generally has also been ‘normalised’ in our society by the National Lottery….it’s made gambling more ‘socially acceptable’ although, when someone has a ‘real problem’ with gambling, this still has a social stigma attached.
Another problem which has really only begun in this century with the easy access to the internet via all sorts of devices, is excessive use of online pornography. Of course ‘excessive’ is a relative term which is arguably subjective, but if it gets to the stage where thoughts of it are pretty much uppermost in your mind, or you are going to bed with your partner and then getting up again to access/use it while they are asleep, or you find your ‘tastes’ are changing to more ‘fringe’ or even illegal porn, or it has got to the point where it is substituted for ‘normal’, healthy intimacy within a loving relationship and thus causing problems within the relationship, and so on, then you may well have developed a problem with it.
Please browse my site for more info on drink problems, drug problems, and other sexual problems.
Studies are now showing that there is a strong correlation between what is known as Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) and later problems with addiction and addictive behaviours – have a look at this link for more info but please remember to come back to this page! 🙂 Get your ACE score.
Many addiction recovery programmes approach these problems by dealing with the ‘external agent’ (i.e. the drink, food, gambling, drug etc) and this can be useful for people initially to help them to better manage an out of control, and perhaps destructive, behaviour. However, these approaches generally do not explore the underlying issues – i.e. whatever is compelling someone to carry out their addictive behaviour, and we need to look at this aspect if lasting change is desired.
As mentioned, addiction recovery programmes don’t usually work to resolve the underlying causes of the addiction. The causes are most often unresolved feelings from challenging past experiences, usually from early life and often long-forgotten by the time a person develops addiction problems. Perhaps they also have low self esteem, or lack confidence, or feel stressed and unable to cope. Whatever the causes are, people often feel ‘compelled’ to carry out their addictive behaviour to make themselves feel better somehow…albeit temporarily. Often these ‘compulsions’ are subconscious (i.e. operating outside of conscious awareness) which makes it more difficult in many ways for people who have these sorts of problems.
However, it is possible to resolve even subconscious causes using appropriate therapy. That said, after ten years of offering therapy help, I have found that people with gambling problems find it difficult to go through therapy successfully while they are still actively gambling. Therefore I advise that, if this is your problem, you DO find a programme or other help to stop gambling before you contact me. Ideally, you need to have stopped gambling for at least three months before starting therapy.
I offer different approaches for every problem depending on the individual and their circumstances – the decision is usually made during the initial consultation.
Please browse my site for information on the various therapies / approaches that I practise..
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